Have you ever opined that “this is going to be the best Christmas ever”, or “the best vacation”, or “the best birthday”? If you have, you’re not alone. We often project all our hopes and dreams onto a single event. “This Christmas will make up for the lousy Christmases I had as a child.” “This birthday will be so great, I’ll forget I’m getting older.” Don’t put your eggs in the one proverbial basket. When you create unrealistic expectations for an event or a person, you set yourself up to be disappointed and the likely outcome of that disappointment is to be nudged into depression. Planning to have a “great time” is not dependent on everything turning out “perfectly”. On the day of that big birthday bash, the rain may pour so the party has to move to cramped covered space, the cake may fall and your hair frizz but you can have a “great time”. Keep a sense of humor, enjoy your guests and don’t fret over how it’s not perfect. Try the mantra, “it is what it is”, as though it could be other than it is anyway. Both you and your friends will share that great time.