Nourish yourself … make time for those things that bring you pleasure and energize you. It’s easy to get caught up in the business of life and the “have to’s” and neglect the joy.
Instead of a traditional “To Do” list with all the tasks that need to get done to sustain life and [...]
Banish wouldda, shouldda & couldda.
Stop living in the past. Even if after ruminating for weeks, months or years you were able to figure out just what “you should have done” or “could have done” or what you “would have done” had you known then what you know now, you do not get a [...]
It is important to recognize “It is what it is” and stop denying it or railing against it; even if we don’t like “it” or “it” scares us. Our choice is to either continue on as though nothing is wrong, a waste of energy, or we can accept the reality of our circumstance.
Acceptance is [...]
inferring present participle of in·fer
Verb … Deduce or conclude (information) from evidence and reasoning rather than from explicit statements.
It’s only human nature to “fill in the blanks”. Like Sherlock Holmes we tend to take bits of information and come to a conclusion. But there’s the rub, unlike Holmes who always wades through [...]
Recognize your life as it is. It is what it is, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Until you really wake up and acknowledge the life you have, you can’t bring about change. If you’re waiting for the Blue Bird of Happiness to drop happiness in your lap (outside circumstances to shift so [...]
Of the seven steps to finding peace and contentment in a troubled world, Step One: Turn off your autopilot. When you’re on autopilot, your mind is free to wander into the past or hurl forward into the future. Into the past, ruminating on “wouldda”, “couldda”, & “shouldda” will plunge you into depression; and if into [...]
For tips for surviving the holidays, review How to Beat the Holiday Blues and Winter Funk and How to Manage Expectations. And watch this site where I’ll be posting a series of articles with strategies for the new year to break out of old patterns and truly start fresh in 2013.
Have you ever opined that “this is going to be the best Christmas ever”, or “the best vacation”, or “the best birthday”? If you have, you’re not alone. We often project all our hopes and dreams onto a single event. “This Christmas will make up for the lousy Christmases I had as a child.” “This [...]
Holiday blues and winter funk, seasonal affect disorder (SAD), are both biological and situational in origin. Melatonin, the hormone which regulates sleep, body temperature and the release of other hormones, is produced during periods of darkness. People who experience SAD have high levels of melatonin which impacts mood and gives rise to depressive symptoms. These [...]